So Ive grown to love Jada Pinkett-Smith. Ive never really paid attention to her in the media, I just knew her and Will Smith seemed to have a pretty good marriage. She recently explained on her Facebook page, a comment she made about Will Smith being able to do whatever he wanted to do.
Of course people reacted to that statement weirdly, so she felt the need to really break it down. I personally think every woman should take a page from her book. The basis of what she was saying was the fact that you need to have trust and love to make any relationship last.
To me, an open marriage or relationship doesn’t necessarily mean “Hey you are free to sleep around and do whatever”. It means two individuals are coming together and deciding to trust each other. Two individuals who are open and honest with one another about their feelings and actions, so that the unnecessary wont ever occur. These days, men and women play so many games with each other and its all about winning. A relationship shouldn’t be a competition. You guys should help one another evolve and reach that next level of greatness. Every relationship is a learning experience because no two people are the same, and different things work for different people.
We are so afraid of judgment or afraid of being hurt that we make ridiculous rules and try to force people to abide by them. Once you decide to take that next step and commit to a person, all your cards should be on the table. There’s no need to hide your hand. This is something I am personally learning. If you cant be YOU for anyone else at least be you for your spouse. Presenting who you really are early into the relationship will definitely help the relationship last longer, or you may even realize that person isnt even for you before you get “in too deep”. Either way, it will work out for the better. Relationships aren’t easy. I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who said it was. However, when two people come together on the same accord a LOT of bullsh*t will be cut out, early. Whenever I look at successful couples , I always wonder “What are they doing to make it work?”. Ive always seen the “bad” in relationships so its sooo refreshing to see people who can actually make it work. It gives me hope. It ultimately all boils down to two things: Trust & Love. I think Jada Pinkett hit the nail on the head. Of course, there are other little things but the BIGGER picture is definitely painted with lots of trust and love. Once you have that foundation, you are already setting your relationship up to succeed.
Expose yourself to your significant other. Be naked together. Yes, it’s easier said than done but hey it’s surely worth a try.
You can read Jada’s full response here: https://www.facebook.com/jada?ref=ts&fref=ts